When is a good time not to care?

20160922_1156291One of the key tenets of this site has been ways in which to aim to lead an easier life. I’m not suggesting giving up all cares for key areas required for life to go smoothly, but give up or limit cares for things that will not help us or will help us very little. There are a few for all of us.

I will give examples to show you what I mean, these examples may relate to you or they may not.

Even if some of these do relate to you I’d suggest doing even further soul-searching as there will be some unique to you.

Gossip (the extreme variety) So I’m not talking about the odd new bit of must know news that’s just got round the office quicker then the next derby winner, but I am talking about that insidious form of gossip that ruins people’s lives in one way or another. I’ve been lucky to experience this a mere handful of times, but thats enough for me.

Biting ones tongue (for the ladies) At some point we have all been there. A recent one for me was when there was a bee or wasp passing by our table regularly in a country pub in mid summer. After it came too close to me for comfort at least twice I had to politely ask if something could be done, despite another member of the group gesturing for me not to. Sure I get it wasn’t their fault but this example is a great example of what I mean.

Small talk (the variety that’s leading nowhere) I understand the world is made in such a way where often times small talk is needed. I’m OK with it if it leads to something bigger but have no real sense of caring for anything that never passes mundane small talk. I am an introvert and its the way I roll to a large extent.

Work Stress This is one of the more relative ones but there are ways to cut the level of care you give to aspects of your work that do not interest you (even if its only in your mental chatter). Breathing exercises can be great for trying to keep stresses at bay during work. Mindfulness (internal brain chatter only) that a lot of managements problems are thier problems and not directly yours can help.

Over accumulation of money This is another relative one. Sure its nice to have money to pay the bills and live a reasonably decent lifestyle, however accumulation of money to the extremes could actually serve to limit happiness from the perspective of having to work harder or longer hours. Money sure does aid hapiness but only up to a certain point.

Alcohol Since I started my journey without the ethanol molecule I’ve learned to love life without not only booze itself but hangovers and that awful groggy “alcohol tiredness” feeling. Life is for living and with non alcoholic beers wines and cocktails (mocktails) why would I ever want the ethanol molecule again?

Football (and the rivalry that goes with it) I really have tired of “the beautiful game” and its rivalry even more so. In my eyes the games boring and I simply have not got either the energy nor the desire to care if Burnley beat West Ham. I thought I’d add this as in the British Isles football is quite a big thing and not to be into it is reasonably subversive. I prefer  racing as there’s no rivalry and its much more exciting to watch (for me)

Fitting in This is one of those things I never have done. I barely know what the concept means. I get why people feel the need to fit in but its one of those concepts that simply doesn’t appear on my radar.

I hope the examples I have given will aid you in soul-searching for things you really don’t need to care about, or care less about.

Samantha Eaton

La Reina Razonable

Cynicism, not so bad as one might think?

20150717_200107.jpgHello Dear Readers

Not so bad I hear you say

Yes I really do mean Cynicism isn’t a bad thing to have. Cynicism is regularly seen by many as un-cool and something that increases with age  (according to a newspaper’s website). I’m here to prove that none of these myths are wholly true.

Sure Cynicism can have a “negative slant” on it but it does not have to by default. In my personal view Cynicism is closely connected with “being streetwise” and discernment. I certainly think levels of healthy Cynicism grow in people who have good discernment and have an “air of streetwise about them”.

One way of looking at Cynicism is to look at what has been said one party be they your friend or a politician. What has not been said might be telling and may tell a story of its own. This is where the Cynic will have some level of an advantage. The Cynic skill of “reading between the lines” can be a good skill to hold.

Another positive I see is the fact that the Cynic is not automatically trusting of every person in every situation. They are more likely to listen to their instincts.

I admire the power in those who hold the ability to see things as they really are rather than gloss over the not so great parts. While I also admire positivity I do think trying to pretend a situation is good when it’s entirely not (a false positivity of sorts) is in reality counterproductive. It really does help to realistically know what problems you are up against to then try to figure out a way of resolving them.

Cynicism however is not for everyone. Some people will see it as either a bad thing or “not them”, and there is a level of truth to the fact that it’s not for everyone. I think the world would be a different place had we not have had any form of cynicism and it likely wouldn’t be for the betterment.

I think that Cynicism has to be “mixed” with other feelings and states of being to be effective in its truest forms and to prevent it becoming a “negativity fest” ultimately turning the person to a state of negativity. This point also goes far to dispell the myth that Cynicism and Grumpiness are interchangeable. Cynicism can spiral into Grumpiness but it doesn’t have to be like that. In a balanced mind some level of cynicism can only be a good thing.

To be cynical is like not always choosing a movie with a happy ending. While we all love a happy ending the real world isn’t always like that. That’s where our cynic comes in. In real life there are neutral endings and sadder endings, and while neither give us the feel good charm that a happy ending would they still form part of real life

So being a “positive cynic” is the key to having a good set of positive values while listening to your intuition and “knowing when something really is too good to be true”.

And whats wrong with that?

Samantha Eaton

La Reina Razonable

 

How I discovered my future as a writer – Life path part 2

20160416_155203Hello dear readers

This is a follow-up from my initial post called “Looking for a change of direction

I am writing this follow us as I honestly believe I may well have found my “career path” which can be intertwined with the “life path” also. I’m not suggesting being an article writer is for everyone but I believe the insights will be valuable to readers and the idea and process can be tweaked to fit someone elses circumstances.

I started this blog/website last month and it just feels like the right path now. I have long-held an idea of not only “bettering myself” but potentially being self-employed in some form preferably on something that I’m interested in and will last over long (or unlimited period of time).

I got my first chance of “being my own boss” while working for Avon a few years back. While I had some level of fun selling to friends and family I’m no “social butterfly” and left this after 8 months.

I went back to “day jobs” that were largely unexciting but paid the bills. Weve all been there and while there was nothing wrong with this I was easily interested in something a bit more “me” and preferably had some “creative streak” if I could help it.

Since I’m a train enthusiast I gave sincere thought to starting a railway blog. While It was a fantastic idea from a perspective I had figured you’d have to be an extreme form of rail enthusiast to be able to conjure up enough articles to make it worthwhile and attract an interested base of readers.

Another avenue of writing which potentially caught my interest for a fair while was Alternative (or Conspiracy) Research. I’m keenly interested in this and have been for a number of years. There were a few things that put me off. The first was the endless fact checking that needs to be carried out to be seen as credible by those who hold and interest for this genre. The second is there’s a lot of finger-pointing and negativity within the genere and I’d love to keep my site reasonably light-hearted where possible.

So I created this website in the latter end of June 2016. I feel that the format I have taken is the best path for myself as I feel I write the best when I am solving problems for others both in a light-hearted way and on mostly intuition and thoughts that come to me naturally. This is also exciting as I honestly don’t know what my future articles will be with exception to ones I’m on in the relative here and now, but that’s exciting in a “whats the next twist” way.

The name of this site is Pensamientos de la Reina Razonable, which means thoughts of Queen Reasonable in Spanish. The title of the site has been chosen in order to openly state that I’m here to share whats in my heart space.

I had always known I wanted to do “something I preferred” with a “creative twist” and an ability “to help society or sections of it”. Please understand it’s taken me a fair number of years to get even this far. Realisations such as these simply do not happen quickly for the vast amount of people (myself included) but anyone with a keen interest for improving on what job they have can reach this point should they be willing to embark on this journey of soul-searching. It’s a long journey with periods of despair at times but its worth it.

A key phrase I remeber is “when the head and the heart are at odds, go with the heart” (unknown). This is not only a fantastic piece of advice but the ethos of which this website is created

As for me I’m just getting started

Samantha Eaton

La Reina Razonable

Looking for a change of direction?

20150621_211700Many of us are looking for something that fits more in line with who we are and our principles. Usually this means in a career sense but it can also no doubt mean general life direction sense.

The first question is what are your values. These could be anything that means something dear to you. People first think of values as being thier understanding of right vs wrong. While I admit this is no doubt part of the overall picture, I do say theres more to it then that.

I’d expand values to mean anything you cherish or hold dear to you as a person. A key example would be the understanding of free time. Theres no right vs wrong equation involved but some value it more then others and some are happy to part with it or compromise.

Another is how can my indivuduality, experience and creativity help someone esle suceed in some way or make thier day a touch easier? If you can think as to how you can improve the lives of others through your abilities then this will be a fair clue.

The last thing I’d advise is to keep an eye on your passions. Should you be able to do something connected to what you are passionate about it will be a win-win for all parties concerned.

There are some great and not so great YouTube sessions out there.

Some are

Scott Dinsmore TED talk
Adam Leipzig – TED Malibu

Samantha

La Reina Razonable