Cynicism, not so bad as one might think?

20150717_200107.jpgHello Dear Readers

Not so bad I hear you say

Yes I really do mean Cynicism isn’t a bad thing to have. Cynicism is regularly seen by many as un-cool and something that increases with age  (according to a newspaper’s website). I’m here to prove that none of these myths are wholly true.

Sure Cynicism can have a “negative slant” on it but it does not have to by default. In my personal view Cynicism is closely connected with “being streetwise” and discernment. I certainly think levels of healthy Cynicism grow in people who have good discernment and have an “air of streetwise about them”.

One way of looking at Cynicism is to look at what has been said one party be they your friend or a politician. What has not been said might be telling and may tell a story of its own. This is where the Cynic will have some level of an advantage. The Cynic skill of “reading between the lines” can be a good skill to hold.

Another positive I see is the fact that the Cynic is not automatically trusting of every person in every situation. They are more likely to listen to their instincts.

I admire the power in those who hold the ability to see things as they really are rather than gloss over the not so great parts. While I also admire positivity I do think trying to pretend a situation is good when it’s entirely not (a false positivity of sorts) is in reality counterproductive. It really does help to realistically know what problems you are up against to then try to figure out a way of resolving them.

Cynicism however is not for everyone. Some people will see it as either a bad thing or “not them”, and there is a level of truth to the fact that it’s not for everyone. I think the world would be a different place had we not have had any form of cynicism and it likely wouldn’t be for the betterment.

I think that Cynicism has to be “mixed” with other feelings and states of being to be effective in its truest forms and to prevent it becoming a “negativity fest” ultimately turning the person to a state of negativity. This point also goes far to dispell the myth that Cynicism and Grumpiness are interchangeable. Cynicism can spiral into Grumpiness but it doesn’t have to be like that. In a balanced mind some level of cynicism can only be a good thing.

To be cynical is like not always choosing a movie with a happy ending. While we all love a happy ending the real world isn’t always like that. That’s where our cynic comes in. In real life there are neutral endings and sadder endings, and while neither give us the feel good charm that a happy ending would they still form part of real life

So being a “positive cynic” is the key to having a good set of positive values while listening to your intuition and “knowing when something really is too good to be true”.

And whats wrong with that?

Samantha Eaton

La Reina Razonable


How I discovered my future as a writer – Life path part 2

20160416_155203Hello dear readers

This is a follow-up from my initial post called “Looking for a change of direction

I am writing this follow us as I honestly believe I may well have found my “career path” which can be intertwined with the “life path” also. I’m not suggesting being an article writer is for everyone but I believe the insights will be valuable to readers and the idea and process can be tweaked to fit someone elses circumstances.

I started this blog/website last month and it just feels like the right path now. I have long-held an idea of not only “bettering myself” but potentially being self-employed in some form preferably on something that I’m interested in and will last over long (or unlimited period of time).

I got my first chance of “being my own boss” while working for Avon a few years back. While I had some level of fun selling to friends and family I’m no “social butterfly” and left this after 8 months.

I went back to “day jobs” that were largely unexciting but paid the bills. Weve all been there and while there was nothing wrong with this I was easily interested in something a bit more “me” and preferably had some “creative streak” if I could help it.

Since I’m a train enthusiast I gave sincere thought to starting a railway blog. While It was a fantastic idea from a perspective I had figured you’d have to be an extreme form of rail enthusiast to be able to conjure up enough articles to make it worthwhile and attract an interested base of readers.

Another avenue of writing which potentially caught my interest for a fair while was Alternative (or Conspiracy) Research. I’m keenly interested in this and have been for a number of years. There were a few things that put me off. The first was the endless fact checking that needs to be carried out to be seen as credible by those who hold and interest for this genre. The second is there’s a lot of finger-pointing and negativity within the genere and I’d love to keep my site reasonably light-hearted where possible.

So I created this website in the latter end of June 2016. I feel that the format I have taken is the best path for myself as I feel I write the best when I am solving problems for others both in a light-hearted way and on mostly intuition and thoughts that come to me naturally. This is also exciting as I honestly don’t know what my future articles will be with exception to ones I’m on in the relative here and now, but that’s exciting in a “whats the next twist” way.

The name of this site is Pensamientos de la Reina Razonable, which means thoughts of Queen Reasonable in Spanish. The title of the site has been chosen in order to openly state that I’m here to share whats in my heart space.

I had always known I wanted to do “something I preferred” with a “creative twist” and an ability “to help society or sections of it”. Please understand it’s taken me a fair number of years to get even this far. Realisations such as these simply do not happen quickly for the vast amount of people (myself included) but anyone with a keen interest for improving on what job they have can reach this point should they be willing to embark on this journey of soul-searching. It’s a long journey with periods of despair at times but its worth it.

A key phrase I remeber is “when the head and the heart are at odds, go with the heart” (unknown). This is not only a fantastic piece of advice but the ethos of which this website is created

As for me I’m just getting started

Samantha Eaton

La Reina Razonable